Thursday, June 28, 2012

Ruders Gonna Rude

Since becoming a stay at home momma, and a single income family I've learned a lot! Here are some things I've figured out, from splurging or saving to sanity savers.

Generic brands are usually just as good as the big name brands. I emphasize Usually! Things not to buy generic for, toilet paper and paper towels. They just don't compare. Nothing compares to Charming with aloe, it's like someone is wiping my fanny with silk. So unless you prefer to wipe with thin sandpaper that will let dribble get all over your fingers, spend the extra money and buy yourself the good stuff. Your privates will thank you.

Trying to tidy up with a toddler in the room is impossible.
That pile of colors is a pile of clean clothes Bean has pulled off of the couch. They used to be folded. I swear the room gets messier as I clean it, if she's awake. You other moms know what I'm talking about.

Sometimes buying things in bulk is a better idea, convincing your stingy husband of this... not a better idea. More like a frustrating idea!

As a first time momma, people keep asking me when I'm going to have another. Rude much?! Then they don't like the answer I give them. So don't ask, rude people! Haters gonna hate, Ruders gonna rude.

You know what else Ruders gonna rude about?! How you parent. It's sad how judgmental of other mothers we are. I try not to be, but I am. I'm human, gimme a break! You think my bed-sharing is going to ruin my child? Will I don't, ya Ruder! And ya know what, she stil wakes up multiple times a night at 13 months old *GASP!* But what we do works for us, you do what works for you. Don't let them Ruders rude you out of your momma instincts! (If you don't think about that last sentence, it makes sense.)

I've also learned that it's a-okay to go pee by yourself. If she sits outside of the door for 30 seconds fussing, she's no worse for wear. Yes, she's left alone with my dogs for those 30 seconds, but really, if something starts happening (which it wouldn't because she stands outside of the bathroom door banging on it whenever anyone's in there...) then you can bet I'm going to waddle, because my pants are around my ankles, as fast as my legs will carry me with pee dribbling down them and all over the carpet. If a neighbor happens to look in, and see me and my goodies... well, it's their own darn fault for being nosey! I girl's gotta right to urinate in privacy! If you're a fast pooper you have the right to defecate in privacy also... if your a leisurely B.M.er than crap in privacy at your own risk.

And the last, biggest thing I've learned is... *DRUMROLL...* Sometimes all you can do is laugh.

[credit youtube.com - Moviescenes4u]




37 comments:

  1. Amen! I am no mom or no mom to be at this moment in my life, but I totally agree with you. Ruders gonna rude. :) I remember my mom telling me that she would potty alone and well I would do the same thing sit outside the door and wait til she is done. It's alright what you are doing. Not that I am a mother to give advice, but it's alright.
    Keep on keeping on.

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    1. Right on my sista! *chest pound* haha, thanks for stopping by Natalie!

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  2. I am laughing at your post Mar because the rude people that have something to say about how someone parents, usually doesnt have any kids, or there kids are married with kds and there parenting skills are from 1940's :-) You are doing a fantastic job. I also like to pee in private why cant I have a potty time alone. J sits outside of the door just fussing away, but I think I deserve a little alone time also :-)
    Great Post Mar!

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    1. We all deserve to wipe our bits and pieces in peace and quiet!

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  3. I love this post! I couldn't agree with you more! People are so ridiculous these days! Everyone feels the need to always throw their two cents in and always think their way of doing things is the best. Everybody's different! Geeeesh. Side note: I'd love for you to link up over at Me + the Moon for Find + Follow Friday:) Hope to see you there!

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    1. They do! Occasionally I do get good advice. I guess occasionally, really should say rarely.... I linked up :)

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  4. DUDE! I was just coming over to do my blogger duties to "follow back" (you found me from GFC BlogHop), take a quick look around, & continue on, but seriously..I think we'd be the bestest of sisterly girlfriends if we ever met!! Seriously, your candid in-your-face blogging style has me quite captivated!!! LOVED what I read so far - by far my favorite blog I read as of yet, and Im only 1 post in, HAHA!

    Rude gets ruder - TOTALLY! How come I never heard that before? And yeah, it works for us...DO YOU & stay out of my parenting business, LOL!! You know who is the worst (in my personal experience, and forgive me, I love her to death, she is my best friend as well) - My very own MOTHER! lol!! My daughters are now almost 3 & 17 months old - let me tell you, it never ends (the ruders & haters) but it DOES get easier to deal with.

    Anywho...Loved this...you're doing great (from what I know so far, lol). So nice to meet ya!

    ~Kristen
    (Sorry, I love to ramble on)

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    1. I'm glad you're enjoying me! haha, I'm loving your enthusiasm!

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  5. haha. love this.. its ok to pee by yourself..
    in my case its not fussing its 2-3 kids pounding on my door, mom, what are you doing??!!! um, what do you think Im doing.. and i usually dilly dally in the bathroom..
    lol. thats so sad.. =) stopping by from GFC, because you paid me a visit.. so nice to meet you girl!

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    1. I too linger in the powder room longer than I need to, some days... okay okay, most days! Thanks for visiting :)

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  6. Stopping by from the Find & Follow blog hop!! Mary Poppins is my favorite, I love that video :)

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    1. It's one of my favorite parts in the movie!!

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  7. I wish I could say that Ruders go away later on down the road, but they don't.
    When I had one kid it was "this is how you should do such and such" or "he needs a sibling"
    When we had two kids, it was, "you had them SO close together?!" and "you guys are SO young"
    when we had our third baby, "THREE?!", "ANOTHER kid?!", "how long are you going to wait before you spit out a 4th"

    Seriously, people are RUDE.
    And none of our kids were "oh oops OMG what do we do" kind of kids.
    They're all three by the same man--my husband who was my husband before we started having kids.
    We waited til we were 22/23 unlike the majority of my high school class.
    Our kids are polite, cute, well dressed, messy, spoiled, loved, bratty, amazing, talkative, shy, etc etc. It all depends on their day.
    And even when they're the best behaved people will come up with negative things to say :: "you must be too strict on them"
    or if they've just devoured their lunch and pulled their hairbows out while you're in the car on the way to wherever, you get those, "do you not bath/dress your kid?! Brush her hair!"
    it never ends.
    I wish I could tell you otherwise, but in the 4 (almost 5) years that I've had kids (not counting the pregnancy rudeness), I can honestly tell you that it doesn't stop.
    Some people are just rude.

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    1. Oh the pregnancy rudeness! That deserves a post venting post by itself! Quite ridiculous if you ask me.

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  8. Found you from the Find & Follow Blog Hop!

    I loved your post! I have 2 kids (10 & 7) and sorry to say, but it hasn't gotten too much better. Someone is always going to be rude. And as far as going potty - both my kids still harrass me while doing my business. LOL - it seems every time mom needs to "take a second" - that's when they need something!! So frustrating.

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    1. Yes!! My little bean always needs something whenever I'm in the middle of something. Especially when I'm cooking dinner!

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  9. Grr Ruders!!!! My son is 4 and still wants to sleep cuddled up to me, I don't go cold at night :) Have a great weekend x

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    1. Aw, how sweet! I have to lower the house temp before I go to bed, with the baby by my torso, and a cat on my feet I end up staying very toasty!

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  10. This is exactly what cleaning with my son is like. I really like when my husband comes in and asks what I cleaned when I talk about how much I got done. Little does he know but I cleaned the living room 52 times in the time he was gone.

    www.adventureswithcaptaindestructo.com

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    1. Yes! My husband occasionally complains about the dishes and I think, well if I didn't contain the toy mess to this area then the dishes would be done, but the house would be a complete disaster!

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  11. One thing I won't buy generic of is mac n cheese! I will pay a dollar for the real stuff ha I also hate how rude and judgmental other moms can be! They turn everything into a clique and you can only be a part of it and feel comfortable around them if you do everything the same way as them....no thanks. Keep doing what works for you and your baby, there's no "right" way to do things.

    Whitney

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    1. Oh yes! Generic Mac and cheese is groossssss. We splurge and buy the velveeta and shells. Mmmm, now I'm craving some.

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  12. Amen on the generic mac n cheese!

    If your kids are happy and thriving then you are doing it right, so follow your path Mom and ignore the ruders.
    Jennifer
    http://www.practicallyperfectprincess.com/

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  13. LOL. I have never heard of people referred to as "RUDERS" before but oh, have I met MANY of them! Pregnancy related stuff... when I was dealing with infertility I got, "When are you going to have a baby? Don't you know how they are made?" OUCH! And why don't you just shut up, Ruder! LOL

    I am glad I popped over here from Mom's Mingle. You (and sweet Bean!) made me smile!

    Here is my Mom's Mingle Post!

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    1. Yes, some commenters have no class, and don't know where the line is that they've blatantly crossed. Thanks for stopping by!

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  14. I agree with this post 100%! You crack me up. There's not "one way or the highway" when it comes to parenting and it's not anyone's concern how you parent your child as long as they're happy and healthy! PS Generic TP is the WORST. My bum appreciates the little luxury of not being scraped semi-clean...it's the little things in life, right? Feel free to stop by my blog anytime- I host a weekly link party called "This Week the Trend" that I'd love for you to join and I'm currently offering free ad space! I hope you have a great week!

    Veralynn
    joiedeveralynn.blogspot.com

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    1. Thanks for stopping by! I'll definitely head over to check out your blog.

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  15. I believe I just fell in love with you alittle bit. I absolutely understand every.single.point you just made. I'm a first time mommy, and a SAHM. I get the weirdest, and rudest comments...the worst part? Most of them are from my in laws...well, my mother in law really. She says/asks some things that I just want to smack her for.

    I'm your newest follower from Mom's Monday Mingle. CHeck us out at www.livelaughloveourway.com

    Have a great 4th!

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    1. Aw, everyone loves me ;) thankfully my In laws are awesome. But I hear a bunch of horrid in law stories from friends. I can't imagine dealing with that! I'm not sure I'd be able to. I'll head right over to check out your blog. Happy 4th to you too!

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  16. Love this post - I'm sure all other Moms out there can relate to what your saying. Apparently one time I had my 4-month old daughter sitting up "too straight" in her stroller. *gasp* Oh well - she survived!

    I'm following you from the Monday Mingle. Please be sure to check out our weekly Summer Reading Book Giveaways. Have a great week! Cheers, Renee (following you via email, GFC, Twitter, and FB)

    http://motherdaughterbookreviews.com/summer-reading-weekly-book-giveaways-week-1/

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    1. I'll head right over to take a look! Thank you for stopping by. Hope to "see" you again soon!

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